Wednesday, September 09, 2009

GOOD Parenting or SMART Parenting

"Mommy, can i have a barbie doll?", there it again, big eyes monster asking with face full of hopes. why she always appear whenever i pass through the toys department?!?
"listen baby, you have enough dolls to open up a nursery! you dont need another one ok..." and as always, i will try to negotiate.
"i want a barbie!!! i want a barbie, you are so bad, you know daddy always buy if i ask!!!!!", screaming on top of her lung now, i know i'm not a good negotiator, nor a strict mom. And she is like Veruca in Willy Wonka Factory. Always wanting things.
oh goodness gracious, people are looking now. i wish i could just make a frowning face and tell her no, but instead of her scared of me, i am the one who dont have guts to scold her in public.
I'm not trying to spoil her, but i feel so bad for not buying for her, and it will reminisce everytime i'm away from her, at work or busy. I guess that always running on a working mom's mind. the guilty feeling of being busy at work and not having enough time for your kids.
I dont remember, i ever change into wide eyed monster whenever i went to malls with my mom, back then we always scared to ask things from parents. if they give us presents, then it would be appreciated, not ruining it in a day or left it at kindergarten like it has no value. and when they tell us no, it means no. no more words, not even a "huh!", or "ahhhhhhhhhhh...". it completely understandsble, its a no - no.
Parenting way change so much since then, now kids get to say their mind, and some even can manipulate their parents. Parents in the good old days, are more strict and some might say fierce, they caned and beat us when we cross the line, they ground us for week if we do mistake, they chillied our mouth if we say bad words, they make decisions for us. Now parents just talk to their kids, make them understand. well, if they not? this is when all of us wish we were our parents. of course, there are advantages nowadays, kids understand so fast, and some are really good in making decisions.
As for me, some things are better stay as they are but with a bit of changes, per say; we parents can make decisions but after we talk to the kids and listen to their opinion on that. then maybe, the green wide eyed monster will minimalize their appearance...????and for 'mommy-buy-me-a-barbie doll-situation' that i was in, i bought her a less expensive doll and that after she promise she will treasure it and keep it alive for 3 months.and i make sure she give me massage that night.hah! smart isnt it?

later days..